What is a sensual massage and what are the benefits for women?
A sperm war ensures survival
For 950,000 years and more and long before humans developed from living as nomadic hunter-gatherers to becoming settled farmers, a sharing society to proprietary society, women behaved sexually in a very different way than society allows today. In order to make sure she survived childbirth, produced healthy offspring and that both she and the child survived, the female would mate with multiple males. This not only gave her a better chance of her bodies biology to select the optimum sperm it also created multiple paternity as none of the males she mated with would know whose offspring it was. Therefore to be certain their genetic lineage continued all the mated with males had a vested interest in keeping both her and the child alive.
By having multiple sexual partners as a strategy the female creates a metaphorical sperm war thus ensuring the healthiest and best-matched sperm will win. By doing this she also creates a ruse to convince the participating males to care for her during and after the pregnancy when she and her offspring are at their most vulnerable. By having the close attention and support of a selection of males, each with different skills set and personality maximises her and the chances of her offspring of survival.
Taking a sensual massage should not be viewed as just a pleasure for women. It should also be regarded as an important part of a healthy lifestyle for both a woman’s body and her mind. It provides her with time to be a receiver, it gives her the opportunity to experience different sensual and sexual dynamics, it provides her with a non-judgemental, not expective environment and it normalises sexual arousal as a natural function.
Lack of arousal can cause poor well-being
But when a woman finds herself in a situation where her natural sexual feelings are denied, (non-sexual relationship) suppressed (religious or cultural dogma) or simply switched off and ignored (trauma and rape) then nature can be pragmatic and soon her health and well-being can be negatively affected. Disconnection, frustration, rejection, depression and poor health can be a consequence of a lack of sexual intimacy and erotic arousal.
Listen to your body
If a woman is feeling sexually needy then it is a clear indication that her body is speaking to her. Masturbation is one solution and although very pleasurable it does not recreate the intimacy of foreplay and primal energy of penetrative sex. Taking a sensual massage provides an opportunity to satisfy this desire, safely and discreetly.
The skill of a professional sensual masseur is to be able to create with their hands and imagination the same erotic effect that a woman would experience with prolonged varied sexual arousal. Combine this with the intimacy and arousing touch of a relaxing professional massage and she will immediately feel the benefits. Female clients have reported back very soon after a massage that they feel emotionally elated, more grounded, calmer, less anxious, more confident and feel physically relaxed and healthier. If taken regularly then even more profound effect can be experienced such as an improved immune system, better skin, natural loss of weight.
Some might think good girls don’t do this. I say ‘ Clever girls do this’!
Colin has been working as a professional relationship therapist masseur and mentor for sexual development for men women and couples for twelve years and in this time he has given over 8000 hours of sensual massage. His female clients range from single women, married women, women with partners, women of all ages from 18 to 80 years, all with varying body types from petite to voluptuous and of many different ethnicities and cultures.
What reasons do women give for wanting a sensual massage?
Some women give the reason for wanting the massage as simply a desire for personal exploration and pleasure others it can be a need to satisfy sexual frustration. Some come for advice and treatment for a sexual performance problem such as an inability to orgasm or fear of intimacy. Others come along for just “me time”. Whoever the person or whatever reason they give my goal is to give them an experience that is not only professional, caring and safe but also one that is profoundly satisfying and fulfilling, some say life-changing.
25 reasons given by female clients for taking a sensual massage
- I am tense and need an unconditional orgasmic release.
- Difficulty reaching orgasm when with another person.
- Curiosity and satisfying a fantasy.
- Lack of sexual stimulation in my relationship.
- Recently my libido has increased considerably.
- Frustration/lack of stimulation by my partner.
- Guilt/Morality/Shame around sex.
- Letting go of control and trusting others with control.
- Recoverer of sexual aggression/abuse.
- Complacency in a relationship = no longer stimulated by my partner.
- I love my partner but I find I now feel sexually lacking with him.
- Lack of skill/knowledge by myself and partner.
- I am on holiday/business so free to explore my erotic needs.
- Postmenopausal and still very sexual.
- Postmenopausal and still very sexual and my partner is not.
- Convenience and self-care (busy professionals who don’t want a relationship).
- I have cultural or religious restrictions and I need a safe place to explore my sexuality.
- Exploration of sexual practices as yet untried or unwanted by my partner.
- Poor body image and lack of sexual self-esteem.
- I want my partner to watch me have a sensual massage.
- I want my partner to give me four hands with the masseur.
- I want to explore my bisexuality with a male & female masseur couple.
- I want to explore Female Orgasm Denial
- I want to feel desired and dominated
- I have always had a fantasy of being erotically massaged by a masseur.
I am nervous but want to try this out
The most frequent comment Colin hears after a female client has taken a sensual massage is why did she not do it sooner. With this in mind, Colin has created an introductory massage that he gives at his new Moorgate Treatments rooms near Moorgate station. For women who want to experience the full sensation her offers the 90 or 100 minutes Sensual or Absolute Massage (dependent on the intensity of arousal)
For more information on types and prices of Massage (including exclusive KK members discount) please visit Intimacy Matters
To book an appointment or to ask Colin a question
Call/Text/WhatsApp 07966 522 696.
Hello, I am Kitten T the Editor of #itsakittensworld, passionate about sexual liberation and anything which encourages female sexual empowerment. I Love horses! You can follow me on Twitter for my latest views on the world of KK