What is a sensual massage, and what are the benefits of massage for women?
A sperm war ensures survival
For 950,000 years and more, and long before humans developed from living as nomadic hunter-gatherers to becoming settled farmers, a sharing society to proprietary society, women behaved sexually in a very different way than society allows today.
Making sure she survived childbirth, produced healthy offspring, and that both she and the child survived, the female would mate with multiple males. Not only did it provide her with a better chance of her body’s biology selecting the optimum sperm, but it also created multiple paternity, as none of the males she mated with would know whose offspring it was.
To be sure that their genetic lineage continued, all the mated-with males had a vested interest in keeping both her and the child alive.
By having multiple sexual partners as a strategy, the female created a metaphorical sperm war, ensuring the healthiest and best-matched sperm would win. In doing so, she created a ruse, convincing participating males to care for her during and after pregnancy, when she and her offspring were at their most vulnerable. Having the close attention and support of a selection of males, each with different skillsets and personality, maximised the chances of her and her offspring’s survival.
Taking a sensual massage should not be viewed as just a pleasure for women or an erotic massage. It should be regarded as an essential part of a healthy lifestyle for both a woman’s body and mind. It provides her with time to be a receiver. It allows her to experience different sensual and sexual dynamics. It provides her with a non-judgemental, not expective environment, and it normalises sexual arousal as a natural function.
Lack of arousal can cause poor wellbeing
When a woman finds herself in a situation where her natural sexual feelings are denied (non-sexual relationship), suppressed (religious or cultural dogma), or simply switched off and ignored (trauma and rape), then nature can be pragmatic, and soon, her health and wellbeing can be negatively affected.
Disconnection, frustration, rejection, depression, and poor health can result from a lack of sexual intimacy and erotic arousal.
Listen to your body
If a woman feels sexually needy, then it’s a clear indication that her body is speaking to her. Masturbation is one solution, and although very pleasurable, it does not recreate the intimacy of foreplay and primal energy of penetrative sex. Taking a sensual massage provides an opportunity to satisfy this desire safely and discreetly. Female sensual massage can be considered erotic female massage; the benefits of such sensual massage are profound.
The skill of a professional sensual masseur is to create, with their hands and imagination, the same erotic effect that a woman would experience by prolonged varied sexual arousal.
Considering such erotic massage for women includes the intimacy and arousing touch of a relaxing, professional massage, she will immediately feel the benefits. Female clients have reported soon after a massage that they feel emotionally elated, more grounded, calmer, less anxious, more confident, feeling physically relaxed and healthier. If administered regularly, then even more profound effect can be experienced, such as an improved immune system, healthier skin, natural loss of weight.
Some might think that ‘good girls don’t do this’. I say, ‘clever girls do!’
Colin has been working as a professional relationship therapist, masseur, and mentor, for sexual development with men, women and couples for twelve years. In this time, he has given over 8000 hours of sensual massage. His female clients range from single women, married women, women with partners, including those of all ages from 18 to 80 years—all with varying body types, from petite to voluptuous, and of many different ethnicities and cultures.
What reasons do women give for desiring sensual massage?
What benefits can we see from erotic massage for women? Some women request the massage simply as a desire for personal exploration and pleasure. For others, it can be a solution to satisfy sexual frustration. Some come for advice and treatment for a sexual performance problem, such as an inability to orgasm or fear of intimacy. Others attend simply for a little ‘me time’. Then there are those sent by their husbands who’ve gifted a sensual massage to their wife.
Whoever the person, or whatever reason they give, my goal is to provide an experience that is not only professional, caring, and safe, but also one that is profoundly satisfying and fulfilling—some even say life-changing.
25 reasons given by female clients for taking a sexual, sensual massage
- I am tense and need an unconditional orgasmic release.
- Difficulty reaching orgasm when with another person.
- Curiosity and satisfying a fantasy.
- Lack of sexual stimulation in my relationship.
- Recently my libido has increased considerably.
- Frustration at the lack of stimulation by my partner.
- Guilt/morality/shame around sex.
- Letting go of control and trusting others.
- As a recoverer of sexual aggression/abuse.
- Complacency in a relationship = no longer stimulated by my partner.
- I love my partner, but I find I now feel sexually lacking with him.
- Lack of skill/knowledge by myself and my partner.
- I am on holiday/business and free to explore my erotic needs.
- Postmenopausal and still very sexual.
- Postmenopausal and still very sexual, while my partner is not.
- Convenience and self-care (busy professionals who don’t want a relationship).
- I have cultural or religious restrictions, and I need a safe place to explore my sexuality.
- Exploration of sexual practices as yet untried or unwanted by my partner.
- Poor body image and lack of sexual self-esteem.
- I want my partner to watch me have a sensual massage.
- I want my partner to give me four hands with the masseur.
- I want to explore my bisexuality with a male & female masseur couple.
- I want to explore Female Orgasm Denial
- I want to feel desired and dominated
- I have always had a fantasy of being erotically massaged by a masseur.
I am nervous but would like to try it out
The most frequent comment Colin receives after a female client has taken a sensual massage is that she wished she’d done it sooner.
With that in mind, Colin created an introductory massage that he delivers from his new Moorgate Treatment Rooms (near Moorgate Station). For women who want to experience the full sensation, he offers 90 or 100 minute Sensual or Absolute Massage services (dependent on the intensity of arousal).
For more information about the different types and prices of massage (including exclusive KK members discount), please visit Intimacy Matters
To book an appointment or to ask Colin a question:
Call, text, or WhatsApp on 07966 522 696
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