Squirting is something that gets talked about a lot these days and has become a fairly common sight in porn.
It’s understandable that it garners so much attention, given it’s still something that’s largely a mystery in terms of the biological mechanics of how it works. It’s also natural to wonder whether you’re missing out on something seriously pleasurable if you’ve never had it happen to yourself or a female partner.
We’re going to take a deeper look at the most commonly asked questions about squirting, and hopefully demystify it a little. We’ll also give you some ideas on how you may be able to experience it yourself if you want to!
What Causes Squirting?
Squirting is when fluid is released, propelled by muscles in a woman’s vaginal area, to create a ‘projection’ effect. The amount of fluid produced can vary in terms of volume, and how much it ‘shoots’ out can vary according to the strength of muscle contractions, but effectively, if there’s an expression of fluid in this manner during genital stimulation, it’s squirting.
Note that the fluid is not pee and is also different from the usual vaginal fluids produced for lubrication during sex. If that sounds vague, it’s because it is – scientists really don’t know much about why this fluid is produced or what, in biological terms, it is for!
Note that we said ‘genital stimulation’ there, not orgasm. A squirting orgasm is something you often see in porn, and it’s certainly likely that a woman who squirts will squirt when she climaxes but squirting at other points during sexual stimulation is also possible. So, is squirting an orgasm?
Not in and of itself. An orgasm may be accompanied by squirting, or it may not, and squirting may happen at other times during clitoral, vaginal, and anal stimulation before a climax.
G-Spot Stimulation and Female Squirting Orgasm
Because the science just isn’t in on the whole squirting phenomenon, a lot of what we know is based on women who openly talk about their own squirting experiences. A lot of anecdotal stuff about women squirting orgasm refers to a higher likelihood of squirting – especially among women trying to make it happen for the first time – when the woman experiences an orgasm from G-spot stimulation. That is to say, some women even say that you can only squirt as a result of this particular type of orgasm, rather than from orgasms caused by stimulation of the clitoris, anal penetration, or even those who can have an orgasm just from nipple stimulation.
We had a chat with none other than Lola Jean – a sexpert who actually holds the world record for squirting by volume, so safe to say, she knows her shit. Here she talks about how this is far from the case in her experience, and she has proven that all kinds of stimulation can provoke squirting. You can read about her thoughts on squirting at https://www.killingkittens.com/blog/squirting.
However, even though this proves that once someone has started to squirt, they will be able to experience it under all different types of sexual contact, it does still seem like a lot of women have experienced it for the first time when having G-spot orgasms – whether that’s through penetrative sex or use of toys or fingers.
This is why this is often where people choose to start there when it comes to training their bodies to squirt. Using toys on your own or with a partner can be a good approach because this allows you to cultivate that kind of climax in a situation where you are sufficiently relaxed and know that you have all the time you need to get there. Once you are more familiar with how squirting feels, you can begin to experience it in other contexts, and may even find you can have an anal orgasm squirt.
Can All Women Squirt?
This is a difficult question to answer because the actual mechanics of what happens in your body and why are not really understood, so it’s hard to say whether or not all women have the physical capability. However, if you look at stories from women who have tried to train themselves to squirt, they have generally managed to achieve it, so there is no reason to believe it’s a rare ability. Lola Jean thinks that it’s something possible for anyone with a vulva, and so there’s really no reason to think that you won’t ever be able to do so.
Learning to Squirt
Some women do just squirt spontaneously. This can happen whenever they have an orgasm, whenever they do a certain thing (for instance, using toys in a certain way), or completely randomly. A lot of women do, in fact, report that if they have never tried to squirt, it has happened on its own a couple of times, and they can’t really define what was different about those instances from all of the other sexual experiences they have had where they didn’t squirt. However, it does seem that there are certain requirements for experiencing squirting, at least until the body is doing it often enough that it becomes a normal part of your sexual responses.
One of these is definitely relaxation, and also, strange as it might sound, being psychologically willing to squirt. If someone is worried about making a mess or that their partner might shame them if they squirt, then it generally won’t happen.
For that reason, a lot of people do try it on their own first using toys, and in a safe place like the shower where they can be sure they won’t be mentally holding back. Of course, if you are open with a partner about wanting to try it or know it’s something they are into, then there’s no reason not to try it with them instead – there are certainly ways that training to do it can be incorporated into BDSM play, for instance, or for lesbian couples it can be something you can try to both experience. But whether you’re interested in achieving a BDSM orgasm squirt or a lesbian squirting orgasm, the main thing is that you have to be really relaxed about letting it happen with your partner. Otherwise, go for the toys first!
Hopefully, this article has answered some of your questions and made you feel positive about following your own path to discovering squirting orgasms and if they’re something you want to experience!
Hello, I’m Kitten E, Editor of the KK blog and Social and Content Manager for the Group. I’m passionate about educating people about sex in order to remove stigmas and judgment. Want to write for KK? Drop us an email