Is All Porn Ethical?

What is Ethical Porn?

Regular porn is all about the thrill for the viewer. The ultimate orgasm at the end is first and foremost. Ethical Porn is primarily about how the performer is treated. For porn to be ethical, the performer has to have good working conditions. The risk of being whacked by an erect penis or blinded by flying spunk is unheard of in the ethical porn industry. The performers rights are respected. As well as showing fantasy experiences, they also show real-world sex. This can include things that happen in all of our sex lives, such as actually showing that they put a condom on, or them reaching for lube halfway through. Let’s face it we’ve all had moments of fumbling around in the heat of the moment! They also celebrate sexual diversity. Ethical porn gives off an image of reality, and while it can be imaginatively scripted and fetishes are, of course incorporated, the viewer isn’t made to feel ‘dirty’. Their morals and principles remain firmly intact.

Can Porn Be Ethical?

Porn gets a lot of stick, (pardon the pun), and we constantly hear arguments about it being just unrealistic. 

Porn is in essence a performance, just like an opera. Actors earn their wages by performing. Let’s look at mainstream porn. The camera rolls, an actor is putting a condom on seductively. Then cut. The magic is in full flow. Do you see a Producer asking for a ‘better angle’? Do you hear the actor being asked to be ‘more vocal’? No, you see perfect sex. Everyone’s dicks are massive and every vulva is perfectly compact. There’s not an ingrown hair in sight. 

If you’re fully aware that the sex-world isn’t full of massive cocks and multiple orgasms within a 30 second time-scale, then porn is fairly harmless. It allows you to explore your sexual fantasies, to see what turns you on and off. Porn, if the mind-set is right, can be an excellent way of sexual self-discovery and a great education.

 Where Does Ethical Porn Live?

Google ‘ethical porn’ and your search page will flash up colourful images of dicks and boobies. But, the real question is: how can you truly know if the material you’re about to watch is ethical? What’s ‘‘ethical’ to some might be unethical to others. What I find acceptable, to you, might not be. The word is abstract and relies to an extent on the individual to give it it’s true meaning.  However, the ‘ethical’ label comes from the Producers. 

Cindy Gallop’s MakeLoveNotPorn demonstrates ‘ethical’ through its branding and presentation. The site carries a sophistication to it, which puts our guilt back in the bin where it belongs. You’re made to feel welcome allowing 100% pleasure with 0% guilt. Cindy’s mission is to normalise and clean up porn. Her vision is to make it more accessible so that it’s not forced ‘into the darkness’. Her belief is that good things come from openness and honesty around any subject, porn included.

Dreams of Spanking is another site with an ‘ethical-only’ entrance policy. It’s producer, Pandora Blake, operates an award-winning studio. Their main message is that all content is produced with 100% consent. The content can be ‘violent’. Spanking, as you’d expect, ranks highly on their ‘Most Watched’ list. Pandora’s goal, is to emphasise female-positivity. They produce porn that which “reflects your ethical values as well as your erotic desires”. Which, at the end of the day, could be the absolute definition of ‘ethical porn’. 

If you’re serious about ethical porn, you’ll need to do your research. Don’t be afraid to read the mission statements on their websites and google the stars of the show. Letting go of your guilt? Guaranteed orgasm right there. 

Here are some 100% ethical sites to help speed up your search:

 And one huge word of advice; always pay for porn.

Why Should I Pay for Porn?

Should we pay for porn when PornHub is free? Does that mean that videos on PornHub are not ethical? Cosmopolitan quoted that in the last few years, adult site PornHub has 33 million visitors over 12 months. 61% of those visitors were aged between 18-34. That’s a hell of a lot of millennials seeking out a free wank. In an era of veganism, climate protests and boycotting the work of sex workers, (which apparently also includes Pit Girls in Motorsports but that’s a different post for a different day), it seems strange that the moral compasses of these millennials don’t seem to take their porn standards into account.  

What’s the issue with free porn? Head to an ethical site and you’ll know who you’re watching. You’ll see their faces close up, not their vulvas. The credits will roll with their names, their real names, showing they are a person, not a fuck machine

Free porn very rarely identifies and credits its actors, and the element of consent remains a mystery. Most importantly, though, we have no way of knowing whether the actors are paid for their work. Just as a writer should be paid for their book or copy so should a porn star be paid for their art. In this case, their performance. Have a look through the categories. Can you see that there are harmful stereotypes playing out often derogatory roles? This is the exact reason Erika Lust says that porn should be paid for. Her films tell a ‘cinematic story’, seeking out a few quid for showing a penis being shoved in a vagina for a thrill isn’t on her agenda.

How Do You Know if Porn is Ethical?

Typically, ethical porn portrays real bodies, be it pubic hair, cellulite or breast size, the emphasis is on the ‘natural’. Mistress Tytania told Maria Claire in a recent interview that “once you’ve seen porn when the people in it are enjoying what they are doing, you will always recognise it”. If you’re in the mood for solo play or fancy spicing things up by watching porn with a partner, wouldn’t it be more pleasurable to know that the actors are treated as human beings rather than robots?

At this point we leave you to decide your own porn route. Whichever path you take, be it ethical or regular, remember it’s not real, you don’t have to deep throat it like Linda Lovelace. Let’s face it, most of us gag anyway. Perhaps you’ve been enlightened with a background on ethical porn that you weren’t aware of. Perhaps you’ll think twice about the actors and who they are when you watch free porn. Or perhaps you’ll just wank away without a care in the world and have the best orgasm of your life! 

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