kink of the month: B is for Bondage

Kink is becoming more and more mainstream, you can now buy fetish gear direct on the high street. Yet the world of Kink is complicated. Kink communities tend to have their own terms and definitions, which can leave you completely baffled. So here at Killing Kittens, we have decided to explore the Kink Alphabet, a month at a time.

B is or Bondage

Bondage is a form of sex play in which one person restrains another for sexual pleasure. There are also people who practice self-bondage during masturbation. Bondage can involve handcuffs, blindfolds, and basic restraints such as ropes, gags, sex furniture and even cages.

Bondage is enjoyed for many different reasons. It is about giving someone else control over your pleasure. Many people claim that the delayed gratification involved in Bondage can lead to a far more intense and powerful orgasm.

If bondage is something you feel you would like to experiment please stay safe and here are some helpful Bondage hints.

1. Safety comes first

Any kind of kinky play should always be safe, sane and consensual. Your safety is paramount and you must not risk your own health in any form. Bondage is as much a kink of the mind as the body, make sure you are in a healthy mind frame and consent is paramount from both parties. This consent can also be withdrawn at ANY time.

2. Communication

Bondage is a mixture of pleasure and pain, and the key to this being successful is communication. Having an easy to remember ‘safeword’ is vital. Make sure your safeword is one all parties know and that could not be said by mistake. Once the safeword is said, all play stops. Some recommended safewords are based on the traffic light system Red meaning, ‘stop, immediately’. Yellow meaning, ‘I’m reaching my hard limits so slow it down, pal’. And green meaning, ‘Oh yeah that feels good, more of that!’

3. Preparation

You are dealing with restraints so make sure you are prepared and super safe. If using ropes, learn how to use them. ( Killing Kittens regularly run workshops on this ) Handcuffs, make sure you know where the key, and the spare key is!

4. Be sober

Bondage can be great fun, but also dangerous. You both need to be in a sober state of mind, taking in everything around you with all your senses alert.

5. Take it slowly

Entering the world of BDSM and bondage can be a shock. Build yourself up slowly. Perhaps start with a blindfold and work up gradually. Always discussing the parts you liked and more importantly the parts you didn’t!

6. Be inventive

When it comes to props, it doesn’t have to get expensive. You would be amazed at what you have lying about in your own home. Ties, scarves, belts, dressing gown cords can all be used to restrain a partner. Never use anything you are really fond of as there is always a chance it will need to be cut open!

7. Enjoy

The whole ethos behind BDSM and Bondage is to enjoy a sexual intensity on a different level, but it does not mean that the suits everyone. If you don’t like it, don’t do it. There are plenty of other things to enjoy, but if you do, most importantly, stay safe!

 

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