Anal sex is very much like marmite. But whether you’re part of the ‘love it’ or ‘hate it’ club, you’ll need your experience pass to join either side.
That being said, anal sex can be a big step to take, but there are certainly a variety of rewards for your relationship and more importantly, your own sexual pleasure by tapping into this tantalising taboo.
What is Anal?
As you’ve probably already guessed, anal sex is when penetration (by a penis or a strap-on) occurs in your anus. In technical terms, it doesn’t sound exceptionally sexy, but when you consider the science behind it, you’d be surprised to discover the treasured arousal spots that lay through the backdoor. The nerve endings around and inside the anus are highly sensitive, meaning that it feels oh-so-good to the touch. More so, the wall between the anus and the vagina is very thin, meaning that when once is stimulated, so is the other. You can even feel how thin the wall is by using your fingers – give it a try next time you get busy. It’s not a myth, I swear! In fact, 90% of women have claimed that they have reached climax through anal stimulation. It’s even more intense when your clitoris is being stimulated. Honestly, you’ll see stars.
How to prepare for Anal Sex
Rather than jumping straight into anal sex, it’s important to prepare your body for what’s coming. With that in mind, it’s best that you start this journey off solo, as you know your own limits and what’s comfortable for you. It allows you to have complete control and you can figure out what works for you (as everyone is different and will respond in their own unique way). If you jump straight into anal sex without preparing your body first, then the experience is likely to be fairly overwhelming and not particularly pleasurable. With that in mind, begin with either your fingers or a small and thin butt plug. Oh! And lube. Lots and lots of lube. While the vagina is self-lubricating, the anus is not. Therefore, try using a water-based lubricant when experimenting, and use it generously! The more the better!
Having Anal Sex
Once you have mastered solo play, you can then add your partner to the game. Firstly, approach the subject of anal gently. If they are up for it then great! You now need to consider some basic hygienic rules – the cleaner the area, the better the experience, especially if you’re up for rimming (which is oral sex with the anus). If you know you’re going to be giving this a go, then avoid heavy or spicy food for the day beforehand, and be considerate and have a shower before you get going. You could even use an anal douche, ensuring that everything is sparkling clean ready for you to get down and dirty!
How to do Anal
It may seem fairly obvious when you consider the concept of how to have anal sex, but it isn’t as simple as vaginal sex. Do not dive straight in. Foreplay is absolutely essential for anal sex, as is lots and lots of lube (as stated above). Start by using fingers to prepare your body for what’s coming. It might even be a good idea to have a little drink before you get into it. I’m not saying get absolutely wasted and not remember anything – but a small drink should allow your body to loosen up, and perhaps you’d feel a bit more comfortable. Start out slow, too. If you want to pick up the pace, then communicate this with your partner. Communication is absolutely essential for this experience, and it’s important that this communication is received with trust and understanding.
Does Anal Sex Hurt?
As with everything, there are some pieces of advice I’d love to share with you. I know I keep banging on about lubricant, but there is a good reason for it. If you don’t use enough lubricant, then the anus could rip, which is painful and will take a while to heal. To avoid this, use a water-based lubricant and use it oh so generously. Just like vaginal sex, you should use a condom to keep you safe. If your partner is long-term and you’re aware of their sexual history, then going in bareback is fine, and if he ejaculates inside you then that also causes no problems. All I would say is have a shower after as the semen will expel from your anus.
So there you have it. Armed with the information you need to enjoy anal sex – give it a try! And let us know whether you love it or hate it! (If you follow the guidance I’m almost certain that you’ll fit quite nicely into our little ‘love it’ club here at KK!).
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