KK Guide to Pegging

Just because you own a dick doesn’t mean you should be denied a g-spot orgasm.

Pegging isn’t a term that’s entirely well known to the world, and it still carries a slight taboo, though we’re not entirely sure as to why.

The male equivalent to the g-spot is called the prostate, which, when stimulated, can create orgasms as strong as any g-spot orgasm you’ve ever had. There are a variety of ways that you can include prostrate play in the bedroom; be that with anal toys, your finger(s) or, if you’re down for it, pegging. And let me tell you: when you’re both into it, pegging can create some serious magic.

What does pegging mean?

Pegging is a strictly a heterosexual, woman-on-man act.

What is pegging?

So, “what is pegging?” I hear you ask. Well, it’s essentially where a female (or someone who owns a vagina) wears a strap on dildo that allows their partner to be penetrated anally. People are a little sceptical about it, and to be fair, when I first heard of it I felt intimidated by the very notion. Being a lady who enjoys being submissive and being dominated, the prospect didn’t sound like it would appeal to me in the slightest, but I’ll give anything a go for a writing project! And on reflection: I highly recommend (11/10!). While it was slightly intimidating and full of giggles for the first five minutes, after embracing the power and dominance that comes with it the whole experience became a massive turn on.

The one thing I would suggest, though, is knowing where the damn thing is. Finally, I can relate to men! The P-spot is usually described as a kidney-bean sized gland, which is located about two to three inches inside the anus on the front side of the body. It’s standard size actually swells up when it’s aroused, and that, as you already know, makes it harder – ie: easier to find. Just like our g-spots, the motion you use is very similar. You want to use a gentle but somewhat firm massage-like, come here motion.

Do not take your lead from porn

I will also advise this: you are not a porn star. Or maybe you are. But if so, you’ll know that pegging in pornos is very different to the reality. We’ve talked about the difficulties pornography can have on a relationship and to your own sex drive in previous blogs, but this is more about the physical effects. You must be gentle and slow, and remember that communication is key. Use so so much lubricant that you’re essentially swimming in the stuff. Without this, you’re almost guaranteeing pain, awkwardness and an experience that’s been entirely written off. The anus is a very very sensitive area, so you’ll need to show some true patience – just like you’d want in return. Easy does it! Ensure that the atmosphere is relaxed and that you communicate all the way through it.

You should also be wary to not go in (sorry, not sorry!) too quickly. The way our sensation receptors work when aroused are completely different to when we aren’t. For example: you may love a good, hard spanking during sex, but when you’re emptying the dishwasher whilst trying to send that super important email after a twelve hour day and getting stuck in rush hour on the way home and he comes over and spanks you so hard that you slip: maybe not so much? That’s exactly the same in this situation. Ensure he’s warmed up and aroused. Without that, he may mislabel the experience and consider it painful, awkward and not something he’d like to repeat. A massive shame, because it could be something that he completely falls in love with!

Have Fun

Now, onto you. I won’t lie to you: when you first strap a cock onto yourself you’re going to feel a little out of place and silly. You may feel a little like you’re at a hen do but with this real surreal sensation too. That’s totally normal – it’s just a reminder that it takes practice. You need to communicate effectively with your partner, and it’s okay to have a giggle! In fact, embracing the funnier side of it will help you both calm down and realise that this is for fun and pleasure. Make sure you talk about it – before, during and after the experience. Communication, as always, is key.

So if you’re feeling a bit of pegging, ensure you get the right kit. Stay tuned for our next blog post on the best equipment around for beginners if you’re interested in giving this a go. Stock up on a strap on and lube (did I mention you need lube? Lots and lots of lube). You can even buy strap-ons that get you off simultaneously. If that tickles your fancy, then you’re going to want to purchase a clitoral stimulating strap on. And trust me, once you feel that rush of dominant power, you’ll be over the edge within minutes. Not only does it feel awesome for both of you, it also strengthens both your physical and mental relationship. Experiencing something new always does, especially when it’s something as physically close as this. So, in summary: communicate, smother yourselves in lubricant, create a safe atmosphere, don’t be afraid to laugh, and build the sexual suspense. Do these and I guarantee: you’ll be a permanent member of the pegging club.

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