A Beginner’s Guide to Sex Toys for Women

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It’s March. We’re all social distancing, slowly going crazy, trying to educate our children who are currently out of their routine and arguing in the living room. We’re doing all of this while juggling work and the many other stresses around us.


During this difficult time, sex toy suppliers have seen a huge increase in sales. Why? We’re all masturbating more than ever to calm the fuck down… and because there’s not much else to do.

For those thinking of experimenting with their first sex toy this lockdown, the KK team have partnered with SexToyCollective to create this beginner’s guide to women’s sex toys

Recent studies have shown that 53% of women use vibrators during intercourse, opposed to only 45% of men. Sex toys allow you to experiment in new ways, revealing sensations you have may never have felt before. Perhaps there are men in isolation, too, trying sex toys for the first time?

If you’re beginning your exploration into sex toys, you should take a look at SexToyCollective. They’re trying to improve people’s sexual wellbeing through the magic of sex toys. Here, here, we say!

However, to save you time, here are some of the best female sex toys and what to expect when using them during female masturbation.

What can you expect from sex toys?

New sensations

One of the best things you can expect when using sex toys is the range of new sensations you’ll feel all over your body. If your body has never been exposed to toys like these before, you’ll feel plenty of pleasure, often all at once.

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Your body is used to the same thing over and over again, but sex toys create change by allowing you to spice things up. They come in all different shapes and sizes and can reach places you may never have investigated before.

The excitement of something new

Another thing to expect when using sex toys for the first time is the feeling of excitement simply by trying something new. We all enjoy new experiences, and getting to try something new with your partner or on your own should give you something to get excited about.

While it may seem strange at first, there are endless possibilities if you’re open to the idea.

Plenty of pleasure

When using sex toys, you can almost always guarantee an orgasm! While sex is great, it can sometimes leave women unfilled. Sex toys do not disappoint, and you can use them until you reach your high.

It’ll make you feel sexy

Women who use sex toys regularly report having greater confidence in the bedroom.

When you’re more confident and understand exactly what you like and what you don’t, you give off the kind of sexy glow others recognise immediately. Your newfound confidence and glow will have you fighting off compliments all night. The majority of men find it hard to resist confidence in a woman.

Best sex toys to try

The shower

If you’re a little too embarrassed to go into a female sex toy shop, you can always start slowly, trying out a few new sensations already available in your home.

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Try using the water pressure from your shower to help find the new sensations you may have never felt before. The great thing about using your shower head as a toy is that you don’t need to leave the house to buy anything. You have everything you need, right there at home.


Are you looking for a little added clitoral stimulation? If you want to experience incredible vibrations that no human could ever match, you must try a vibrator. Using a vibrator on yourself for the first time should leave you feeling high like you’ve never felt before.

Trying out sex toys for the first time can feel a little embarrassing, so start slowly. Try them by yourself to see how you like how they feel. Once you feel comfortable and ready to share the experience, then let your partner in on the action. Your pleasure should excite them too.

Something you may mistake for the real thing

If you’re in between partners or simply don’t feel the sensations you crave during sex, why not try a dildo that’s just like the real thing? Using a dildo allows you to control how you feel. Experimenting with such sex toys helps you figure out how you like sex and how you prefer your partner to move and feel.

Once you understand more about what your body likes, it can completely change how you have sex for the better.

Recent studies show that 75% of women don’t reach orgasm during sex. This number would be far lower if women understood precisely what their bodies respond the best to. They can use sex toys as practice for the real thing, helping their men improve their form.

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No man wants a woman to fake or fail to reach orgasm. If your partner believes that you’ll reach orgasm and you’re enjoying yourself in the bedroom, they’ll be far more likely to try anything you want.

Oral sex toys

Most women love to receive oral sex. It can be one of the best things to ever happen in the bedroom—if you have the right partner. If you love oral sex and enjoy the sensations a tongue delivers but have a partner who is unwilling to give or has not mastered their technique yet, there is another option.

There are various oral sex toys on the market that you can use to simulate oral sex. These toys simulate the real thing, so you feel like you are getting licked without any of the complaining or poor technique. You can climax to your heart’s content—all on your own—or bring it into the bedroom for new and exciting foreplay.

Cock rings

While vibrating cock rings are generally considered a male masturbation tool, they’re also great to use during sex. They provide enjoyment to both partners because they’ll both feel the vibrations—right where it matters. The sensations allow for added rigidity and increase the pleasure that both partners feel.

Our sex toy conclusion

If you are new to sex toys, take it at your own pace. Many people use sex toys on their own and with their partners. They are renowned for bringing new excitement into any relationship because of the heightened sensations they deliver to both participants.

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Start slow and on your own if you’re at all hesitant about trying them. Once you build a little confidence with a toy that you like, then you can bring it into the bedroom, introducing new ways to spice up your love life.

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