The mighty G-Spot, where art thou? It’s the elusive search for both men and women, shrouded in mystery and doubt that it even exists. Let’s just say that it’s absolutely real despite being well hidden. But, aren’t all good things tricky to find? Diamonds? G-Spot? A decent man? Let’s see if we can attempt to unravel the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
What is a G-spot?
The G-Spot was named by a German gynaecologist, Ernst Grafenberg, (hence the Grafenberg Spot). Pop this in your next pub quiz! To you and I, it’s the magical part of your vagina that, when found, can lead to a massive, spine-tingling, toe-curling orgasm. Oh! And female ejaculation. (And yes, the rumours are true: women CAN squirt.)
Let’s dive deeper into the G-Spot.
Where is the G-Spot?
Let’s get scientific, your biology class would explain that the spot – or erogenous zone – is the size of a 5p piece found just underneath your vaginal wall. If stimulated it doubles in size to 10p and brings with it a whole extra layer of sexual pleasure.
Does it hold the key to squirting? Who knows, but, whether it causes squirting or not, it sure as hell sounds like it’s worth experimenting with.
How to Find the G-Spot?
Lie back, relax and with your palm facing up, pop your finger (or your partner’s) inside your vagina. If you’re not so wet that you’re sliding on to your finger then we’d recommend you lube it up. No one wants a sore vag. Then ‘tickle’ your front vaginal wall, it should feel slightly spongy. Concentrate on the sensation. Press harder if you want. Keep gently tickling and/or press into the front vaginal wall. You should start feeling that tingle we all feel when we’re getting turned on.
How Deep is the G-Spot?
If you think you’re struggling to find it imagine how your partner must feel. The panic, the sweaty palms, the pressure to hit that spot that’s going to project you to new heights of luxury. So help them out a little. And, we’ll let you in on a little secret: the G-Spot can be stimulated externally, too. So whilst their fingers are having a little search internally, draw an imaginary line from your tummy button to the top of your pubic bone and then stroke/push around this area. If this isn’t working fear not, there are other ways.
How Do I Stimulate the G-Spot?
If you’re still not hitting the spot with fingers then don’t panic. You can always use a helping hand in the shape of a silicone toy. Many vibrators are designed to directly target your G-Spot, (and your clitoris too), if you want a double whammy of pleasure. Stick with it and play around a bit, it’ll take time and practise to build up to that orgasmic explosion. G-Spot exploration is great for foreplay and building the tension between you and your partner. Take them on a guided tour in and around the G-Spot. Ask them to move their fingers around the outside of your vagina and your clitoris for a while and then, when you’re about to explode and the tension is sky high, guide them to the G-Spot; a little stimulation of it and you’ll orgasm pretty damn quick.
Health experts would suggest a regular G-Spot massage to increase blood flow to the area leading to heightened sexual desire. If the experts say so, do so. Get massaging.
Do Men Have a G-Spot?
Let’s talk about the prostate: a cheeky erogenous zone, (found in men only – sorry ladies!), which, if you know where to find it and how to stimulate it, can improve sex for both of you. Looking to show your man stars? We got you.
It’s located behind the penis, nestled in with its hundreds of tingly nerve endings. Despite the force it can create, it’s only the size of a walnut! In this case, though, size seriously doesn’t matter. The only down-side is that finding it, much like the female equivalent G-Spot, can be tricky. Some refer to it as the P-Spot but we’re going with G-Spot. Research would suggest it responds well to stimulation through the anus, but just make sure if it’s a first date your partner is ok with this. We get that it might be a little intimidating to whack a finger up someone’s a-hole, so approach with caution. If it’s a green light, though, go for it!
So there we have it, a little insight into the elusive G-Spot that ranks up there with unicorns and mermaids. Off you go and get searching. Lets face it, the fun is all in the discovering.
I am Georgie, Director of customer Services at Killing Kittens, first point of contact for our 100,000 members, problem solver, occasional writer of bits and bobs. Lover of wellington boots, mummy to 2 amazing little people.