How to Stimulate Your Clit When Masturbating

Journalist Emma Flint teaches us how to use the clitoris for amazing masturbation sessions. 

For some Kittens and Toms, finding your clitoris is second nature. We often discover this sensitive spot at an early age, and while we didn’t truly appreciate what it does, we fast come to love the pleasure it can bring.  

The thing is, stimulating your clitoris might not come so naturally to you, and that’s okay too. We’re not all going to perfectly know our own bodies just because the media tells us we should.  

If you’re still struggling to stimulate your clit, or even find it, we’re here to help you unlock your pleasure. By becoming more aware of your body and how to turn yourself on, you can freely explore pleasure without limitations.   

Consider us your clitoral stimulation sexperts! 

Where is the clitoris?

A common misconception is that all vulvae are the same. Nothing could be further from the truth. Although mainstream media has led us to believe that our vulvae only look a certain way, there’s much diversity to be found – from longer inner labia to asymmetric labia, to small and larger clits, our bodies are unique

This uniqueness can make finding our clitoris a challenge, especially if your clit tends to remain quite well hidden under its clitoral hood.  

The clitoral hood is a part of your inner labia that protects the tip of the clit by covering it. Sometimes this hood is quite prominent, while other times the hood sits in a way that makes the clitoris easy to find.  

Our advice? Grab a mirror and explore your vulva.  

Getting up close and personal isn’t just a great way to find where different parts of your vulva are, but it also helps you to appreciate just how unique it is. While you’re watching yourself explore, why not turn yourself on at the same time?  

Your clit becomes swollen and harder when you’re aroused, much like a penis. If you’ve been struggling to find your clit before, it may be that you find it more easily once you’re turned on. Being able to see your arousal and not just feel it can be incredibly empowering and sexy for vulva owners. We highly recommend trying it.  

How to tip yourself over the edge using your clit

Once you’ve found your clit, it’s understandable that you want to tease yourself to a heady climax. After all, masturbation is self care. However, while you might feel ready to get going, your body might not feel the same way.  

If you start to rub your clit without being wet, the chances are you’re going to experience some discomfort. Touching your clitoris when you’re not aroused shouldn’t hurt, but it can definitely be a raw sensation.  

This is because your vulva gets wet the more turned on you are, with that lubrication helping to make sex more comfortable. Although very natural, how wet you get can vary due to numerous factors, such as where you are in your menstrual cycle, menopause, medication, etc. This is why lube is your best friend. Even if your pussy gets really wet, don’t be scared to add some lube to increase your sensuality further. 

So why does my clit hurt?  

There’s several reasons why you could be experiencing discomfort, one of the most obvious being that you’re highly aroused. The increase in blood flow and the swelling of your clit can cause sensations that feel like a deep ache or throbbing – this isn’t a bad thing, this is good. However, if what you feel becomes painful then an infection may be the culprit.  

There’s many infections and STIs that can irritate the delicate balance of your vulva, such diabetes and clitoral adhesions. There’s nothing to be embarrassed about if this happens, just make sure to seek medical advice. 

Different ways to stimulate your clit 

Provided you’re lubed up and aren’t in any pain, the best way to get yourself in the mood is to take it nice and slow.  

 Your clitoris is a bundle of nerves, a hotspot of sensation, meaning that a delicate touch is the best way to begin. Sometimes intense pressure from the start can be fun to experiment with, but don’t worry if you can’t handle that, the key here is to go at your own pace.  

  • Up and down: One of the simplest ways to stimulate your clit is to rub your finger and/or a toy up and down in a sliding action. After you become used to the sensation, you can start to play around with pressure and speed.  
  • Make circles: Another simple technique is to circle your clit with the tip of your finger, with multiple fingertips adding a greater level of intensity and pressure. Mix it up by switching between fast and slow circles, taking the time to feel the way your body responds to the motion.  
  • Tap it: We’re not saying you have to send Morse code, but if having that visual in mind helps you get into the rhythm of things then why not! Tapping on your clit can steadily take you to the brink of orgasm, which is especially great if you’re edging 
  • Give it a pinch: Pinching can heighten the sensitivity you experience. You can restrict then release the blood flow at a gentle, more gradual rate by pinching your clit with your fingers in a V shape, or you can introduce a clitoral clamp for a more profound effect.  
  • Good vibrations: This one is pretty obvious, but it’s still a good one to mention; if you want some intensity that can continuously change speed and pace, a vibrator is your best bet.  
  • Suck it: In a similar way to vibrators, clitoral suction toys are a fabulous addition to solo and partnered play. The suction of these toys deliver an experience that combines tapping with the steady pulsation of vibrations. A truly euphoric partnership, we think you’ll agree.   

The Best Positions For Stimulating Your Clit 

In the same way we experiment with touch, the way you position yourself can make all the difference. So make sure to give yourself some time to explore all your options. It might not give you an amazing experience every time, but at least you’ll better understand what does and doesn’t work for you.   

If you enjoy getting yourself off while on your back, why not take a long soak in the bath while you’re doing it? Positioning yourself right under the running tap creates a gentle stream of pressure that will stimulate your clit.  

If that doesn’t work for you, there’s always the classic on your back with your bum raised off the bed, which is fantastic for when you want both clitoral and penetrative stimulation. And let’s not forget the exquisite pleasure of grinding against our hand, either on our belly or up on all fours. It’s delicious.  

Seduce Yourself Before Anyone Else 

Clitoral stimulation is an art form. Sure, you can be good at it, but practice makes perfect. If you’re in the mood to discover more, there’s plenty of events and workshops that can help sate your kuriosity.  

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