Four Ways to Spice Things Up in the Bedroom

With the adult world full of many sex games, the KK team discuss the best ones for spicing things up in the bedroom

Playing games is such an innate, basic, childlike or even childish need.

We’ve all grown up playing; we’ve played while seducing or dating; we’ve played games while travelling or at parties. And yet, how often, or how many of us really play sex games? (Aside from playing with ourselves, that is.) There are sex games to play with partners, sex games to play alone, wrestling sex games, sex games with ice… the list goes on, and the opportunities are truly endless.

Do things simply get too serious or too heated too quickly when having sex with others? You know, the way faces become so sombre just before that first kiss. Or are we simply too uncomfortable or too shy to bring the subject up?

There are many ways to go about playing adult games, but quite often, all it takes to turn a good thing into an amazing one is a little something added to the action. Whatever it is, it ought to be shared; why settle for playing alone when you could be playing together as a two or more?

The missing ingredient can come from all kinds of places: good old role-playing, different sex positions, a kinky detail or perhaps a new toy? While I was thinking more about some of my favourites and the adult sex games that everyone ought to try, these were the first four that came to mind.

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Temperature games

Alternating hot and cold objects or liquid and using them during sex can be… well, hot. Or cold.

Preparations are relatively simple for this one. All you need to do is play with the freezing cold and the nicely warmed, with the edible and the drinkable. Ice cubes, ice creams, melted chocolate or warm maple syrup and honey will do just fine. Let your imagination run wild and inspire you.

Tempreture sex-games-hot and cold

KK top tip for elevating the game: With prior discussion, try blindfolding your partner and using hot and cold objects or liquids to stimulate them. You can put cold objects in your mouth and perform oral sex, use warm liquids on the nipples, penis head or other areas of the body. Switching rapidly between the hot and cold will have your partner squirming with pleasure.

Slippery slopes

On most weeknights, people will have sex by simply taking their clothes off, getting into bed and doing it quickly enough to barely break a sweat. And that’s fine. But there is something very primal about having that hot, sweaty, slippery sex.

You should definitely try it from time to time.

No need to wrestle for hours, of course; a far more efficient way is to get a bottle of your favourite massage oil and pour it all over your bodies. But slowly. Really slowly.

A word of caution: make sure you do this in a ‘controlled environment’, for you will certainly make a mess. You should consider plastic painters’ tarps on the floor and bed or having your slippery sex in a tub. Whatever you decide, be careful not to slip and hurt yourself either, especially when getting up. There’s no need to turn this into a painful memory.

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KK alternative solution: Head for the sauna and make sure there’s a lock on the door. Or not…

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Couples sex toy for awesome adult games

Another way to explore unchartered waters is to reach for a sex toy.

Not too long ago, I got LELO’s IDA  for my boyfriend and me, a superbly designed, vibrating couples’ massager designed to be shared and controlled by a vibrating remote.

It took a little getting used to, but once that was done, the sex with IDA got smoother and more intuitive (no need to wedge a hand between the two of you to change the mode or vibration intensity).

The best thing was how it made all the sex positions you tend to dismiss as too ordinary or too uncomfortable suddenly started making sense. If that makes sense?

The more, the merrier

If you’re ready to step it up a notch, why not involve a third member and try a threesome?

You all have that single or not-so-single friend who both you and your partner find sexy and a king-sized bed at home that is so underused. So share the love! Three’s often a crowd, but only on a single bed or in a phone booth.

If your relationship is ready and your sexual appetite healthy, go for it. If you end up liking this type of socializing, it might quickly become an occasional foursome, a vacation fivesome, and so on. And why shouldn’t it? Once the counting stops making sense, you will be free to think about things that really matter, like multiple orgasms and similarly important matters.

Whatever works for you, let it do the work!

Whatever you end up playing and experimenting with, from role-play to hedonistic parties, just take it easy and do what you feel (almost) comfortable with. You can build from careful-and-cautious to your full-blown sweaty mess sex games, all in good time.

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The main thing to remember is to focus on your foreplay, building up anticipation and arousal. Sex is such an exciting, vital, wonderful thing—you owe it to yourself to get the most out of it.


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